Are You Addicted to Your Smartphone?
Do you have a smartphone obsession? I know I do…
A few weeks ago, I was in Singapore for a couple of days on a stopover. After an insane bill the previous time I’d been overseas, I turned the data off on my iPhone. There was no wifi where I was staying, so for the first time in a very long time, I found myself completely cut off from the internet. And you know what, it was great. I was completely “in the moment”. I walked around without a soundtrack. I read a book. And I didn't have a clue what was going on in the world. If only I could do it more often.
Are you addicted to your smartphone too?
Is it going to rain today?
I wonder what Sarah’s up to?
I wonder how to make a paleo birthday cake?
Have I been paid yet?
Whatever the question, there’s an app for it. Bored, there’s always something to read or a game to play, right at your finger tips.
Living in the moment
It’s hard to live in the moment when you spend all day on your smartphone. All the incredible views you miss, the people who walk past, who you didn't even see. The real life moments missed when you were updating your Facebook status. The sounds of nature and life blocked out by your earbuds.
What are you missing out on?
Can’t sleep?
You go on your smart phone because you can’t sleep – or can’t you sleep because you've got into the habit of using your smart phone before bed? The blue light that streams out of your phone in a darkened room, is your brain mistaking that as a cue that it is day time and you should be active and alert?
The restaurant challenge
The last time you went out for dinner, did your companions check their phone during the meal? If so, this is a great game to implement next time – and you could get a free dinner out of it!
Digital Detox: Reclaiming Your Time and Attention
Smartphones are incredible tools. But they can also become shackles, keeping us tethered to a constant stream of notifications, updates, and distractions. If you've ever felt a wave of anxiety when your phone battery dips below 10%, or reached for your device without thinking during a moment of boredom, you're not alone. Many of us have developed a deeply ingrained dependency — and it’s time to take back some control.
Recognising the Hidden Costs of Constant Connectivity
It’s easy to justify phone use under the guise of productivity or staying informed. But behind those pings and endless scrolls are subtle consequences:
- Fragmented attention: Multitasking between apps and alerts can reduce our focus and cognitive performance. That podcast you’re half-listening to while flicking through Instagram? Neither gets your full attention.
- Relationship strain: Ever had a conversation with someone whose eyes keep drifting to their screen? We’ve all done it — and we’ve all felt dismissed by it.
- Reduced creativity: Boredom often precedes creativity. But when we never allow ourselves to be bored — because we’re constantly stimulating ourselves digitally — we miss the chance for creative insight.
When Digital Becomes Default
Most of us don’t realise just how often we turn to our phones. It’s become the default response for boredom, loneliness, stress, and procrastination. Waiting in line? Phone. On the train? Phone. At a red light (hopefully not while driving)? Phone. It’s almost reflexive. But awareness is the first step in changing behaviour.
Try keeping track of your screen time for a few days — most smartphones have this feature built-in now. You might be shocked by the totals. Many people spend the equivalent of a full-time job each week on their devices — often without realising it.
Simple Swaps to Rebalance Your Digital Diet
If going completely without your phone sounds impossible, start with small changes. These simple swaps can help loosen the grip your phone has on your daily life:
- Swap the bedtime scroll for a physical book — you'll wind down more naturally.
- Replace your morning phone check with a walk, some stretching, or journalling.
- Keep your phone in another room during meals — even if it’s just dinner for one.
- Delete one app that’s a time sink (you know the one) and see how you feel after a week.
The Joy of Disconnection
When was the last time you truly allowed yourself to be unreachable? No buzzing, no checking, no passive consumption. Just you and your surroundings.
Try this for an afternoon: leave your phone at home and go to the park, beach, or local café with a notebook or just your thoughts. It might feel uncomfortable at first, but then comes the clarity — the quiet mental space that allows your thoughts to settle and creativity to emerge.
Many people report that some of their most profound ideas, realisations, or peaceful moments come during phone-free time. You might just discover that disconnecting from the digital world helps you reconnect with yourself.
Digital Boundaries: Tools to Help You Take Control
There are also practical tools to help reduce screen time and encourage healthier phone use:
- App blockers: Apps like Freedom, StayFocusd, or built-in screen time settings can help you limit usage of specific apps or create phone-free windows.
- Grayscale mode: Switching your phone display to black and white makes it less enticing, reducing your likelihood of mindless scrolling.
- Notifications audit: Turn off non-essential notifications. You don’t need to be alerted every time someone comments on a post or sends a game invite.
Rethinking Social Validation
One of the hardest habits to break is the constant checking for likes, messages, and updates. It’s addictive — and for good reason. Social media platforms are designed to trigger dopamine hits with every notification.
But what if you gave yourself permission to miss a few updates? To be the last to know what’s trending? Chances are, it won’t impact your life in any meaningful way — but the freedom you gain from not constantly checking might just be transformative.
Reconnect with the Physical World
Use your reclaimed time to do things that nourish you physically and emotionally:
- Cook a meal from scratch without filming it for Instagram.
- Go for a walk without earbuds and listen to the sounds around you.
- Meet a friend for coffee and leave your phones in your bags.
- Start a hobby you’ve been putting off — knitting, painting, gardening, journaling.
Life happens offline. And while phones can enhance it, they shouldn’t be allowed to consume it. Set a few small challenges this week: perhaps one day with no phone after 8pm, or a Sunday with your phone switched off until noon. You might be surprised how much lighter and more present you feel.
Redefining Your Relationship With Your Phone
Phones are not inherently bad. They can help us learn, connect, and capture beautiful moments. But when they start taking more than they give — it’s time to reassess. Like any tool, the value comes from how and when it’s used.
So the next time you instinctively reach for your phone, pause. Ask yourself: is there something I could be noticing, enjoying, or doing instead? You don’t need to delete your socials or move to a cabin in the woods. But you do deserve some space from the constant digital chatter — if only to remember what life feels like without it.
The phone-fast challenge?
Could you go without your phone for 24 hours? No phone, at all. Leave it at home. I’d love to hear if you’re game enough to go without your phone for 24 hours, what you did instead – and if you felt better for it. Do share in the comments below!